I use the term ‘normal mums’ a lot, and I’m beginning to hate it because it doesn’t sound good and I feel bad for using it. I’m just not sure of another way to put it though. The mums who go to play groups and hang out with toddlers, the ones who are out and about and just feed their kids. I love my ‘normal mum’ friends as they show me the goodness that’s out there, while also showing me that that’s bloody hard work too. It’s a world I don’t know, and I’m sad about that. But I guess I’m also privileged to be in this other world because I’ve met some pretty amazing people.Today, with one of my Nicu besties we had what we could only call our first, real, long, normal mum morning. I came home with a lightness in my heart that I haven’t felt in a long time. I felt like we could do this. That although we are still well and truly in the tunnel and sometimes it doesn’t feel like there’s a light at the end, I have realised there are some lights along the way.
We went to a playgroup. A preemie playgroup run by therapists, but a playgroup nonetheless. We sat with a few other mums, and our babies played and babbled, and we talked and listened. Then, when all the kids were on their way to hysterical with tiredness we walked up to a cafe for a coffee while our boys chilled in their prams.
We went to playgroup and then out for coffee. How normal can you get???
It was a mission getting out of the house like it is for any parent. Reshuffling of feed times, sacrificed sleep, and a bag full of tubie equipment. But we did it and it was so unbelievably worth it, because while we were at playgroup our boys became the BIGGEST show offs!
We work extremely hard encouraging Oliver’s development because we know how high the risk is for him to be delayed. We give him every opportunity, complete every exercise the physio recommends, we push him probably a little too hard at times but today he simply shone.
I put him down on that mat with his friends and he sat there. He just sat there. All by himself.
Thank you Oliver for being my superhero buddy on a normal mum day. This is a shout out to every parent who made it out of the house today, I know how hard it is, but damn it feels good once you’ve done it.